Archive for the ‘kindness’ Category

Wednesday, September 14th, 2011

We have been trying to come up with a post for the last few days now. We have a lot to say on a whole host of subjects. But, some things we have noticed over the last few days points us to a new subject: America.

We, as a people, seem more divided now than ever before. The hate and ignorance and bigotry that is spewing from Americans is abhorrent. This country is in turmoil and has been for quite some time. We have obviously recovered from September 11th because we have reverted to our hating and hurting ways. We are turning our collective backs on each other. We are spreading blame wherever we can find a spot for it. We are hurling horrible and untruthful accusations at one another. We are in fight or flight mode…and we’re fighting the wrong fight.

One of the definitions for “American”, according to Merriam-Webster, is to be a “citizen of the United States”. There are a couple of other definitions but nowhere does it state that “American” means anything else other than being a resident here. But, the unofficial definition of being “American” is something quite different.

“Give me your tired, your poor, Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, The wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me. I lift my lamp beside the golden door.”

I still believe in these words. I think they hold truer today than in any time in history. One glaring difference is that these words are now directed at those of us living here, not just in other countries. Today a lot of Americans are the ones that are now homeless and tempest-tossed. We are yearning to breathe free. Free from the fear and the hate and the dark times that lay ahead. The question then becomes “What do we do about it”?

We could choose to keep things as they are knowing, full well that, in time, we will come out of the other side and start to rebuild what is left. There might not be much remaining, but we will still pick up the pieces. We could continue to fight amongst each other, as we have been, and destroy this country and what it stands for. Or, we could choose to fight back. Not against the government or our fellow Americans but against something that we can’t even see. It’s a feeling. Perhaps it’s even a knowledge that something is out there that is hurting us. It’s causing us pain and anguish and fear. We can’t see or hear it, but it’s there. We are lighting our torches and grabbing our pitchforks but we are not pointing them in the right direction. Instead, we are pointing them at each other because we don’t know to whom or what they should be pointed.

Let me offer a new target. Our thinking. Or, perhaps better stated, our way of thinking. The 10 year anniversary of 9/11 brought about innumerable articles and stories about what we all remember from that day. The fear and the pain and the panic. The despair and the sadness. But we also felt something else. Something even stronger. We felt unity. Yes, we felt United.

Again, there were countless articles and TV spots with people talking about how much kinder people were being to one another after the September 11th. People were going out of their way to help someone in need, no matter who it was. Smiles and pleasantries were exchanged. Hands were shook. We banded together to stay strong. We banded together to survive.

We need to get back to that place. We need to keep that fire burning just as bright as it ever did. We need to lift our lamps beside the golden door. Because, if we fail to do so, it will continue to destroy everything that we hold dear. We are not asking for miracles. We are not asking for the impossible. We are only asking that we try to set aside our differences for a while. We are simply asking for everyone to be a little more compassionate to each other. To understand that these are hard times for everyone. Not just a select few, but almost every American is hurting right now in some form or fashion and we need to stand together, as one, to make it through this with the spirit of our great country intact.

Democrats and Republicans, the religious and atheists alike, people of every color, the rich and the poor. Our disputes don’t matter right now because, as we argue amongst ourselves, our country is falling apart. What matters is not our differences but our commonality. Our differences divide us. Our commonality Unites us.

“…one Nation…indivisible…”

Changes are coming…

Wednesday, April 6th, 2011

Hello to everyone! We apologize for not posting in a while but we have been extremely busy the last couple of months and updating the website seems to be the first thing to get left behind. We have had projects going on all over the country and it’s been really time consuming to coordinate. We have been trying our best to get to everyone’s emails and phone calls but we know we are a bit behind. We will get to you; it just might take us a little time.

Some changes are coming to WGTTH. We are in talks with a group that will eventually take over the day-to-day operations of WGTTH. We have grown too quickly and expanded too fast to be able to responsibly handle all the calls for help and emails from wonderful volunteers that want to give their time. We never imagined we would get this big or that we would be able to help so many people and it’s time we hand it over so that it can grow into what it needs to be. Until the changeover, Michelle and I will continue to coordinate all of the projects.

We have calls from 6 different countries wanting to start chapters. We have had requests for help from all four corners of the world. We have been running WGTTH out of our home for the last 2+ years and it’s time the operation was up scaled to meet all of the requests for help we receive. We want to be able to get to everyone that emails or calls and it’s becoming increasingly difficult. We will not leave anyone behind and we will get to each and every person that has contacted us.

As soon as we work out more details about the changeover we will let everyone know. The concept is not changing. The mission is not changing. The purpose is not changing. We just need some help in running WGTTH. People with more experience and knowledge than we have are going to make sure that no email or phone call will go unanswered.

Please continue to contact us. Let us know if you need help or you would like to lend a hand. We will get back to you. It might take us a little while but we will be in touch as soon as we can.

Keep paying it forward as often as you can and a huge thank you to all of those around the country that have given their time, skills, compassion, knowledge and sweat to help those in need in your communities. You are the backbone of this country and the hope for our collective future.

Seth and Michelle

The Expansion of WGTTH

Thursday, October 7th, 2010

Well, Seth returned home from Washington D.C. late last night. He was able to meet with many wonderful people, thanks to Arianna Huffington, that are supporting our group. A lot of the discussions were about the logistics and financing that’s involved in getting WGTTH chapters started all over the country. There is a lot of work ahead, but let us assure you, it will get done.

We are working with people that are donating new website development, so that the site is user friendly and completely searchable. We are working with people that are helping us with fundraising. We are working with people that are networking on our behalf. We are getting more and more exposure. WGTTH is going to take off, and take off fast. 

We have a group of people that are making it possible for all donations to WGTTH completely tax-deductible. This is huge for our effort! Without that tax deduction for donors, we wouldn’t be able to raise the money we desperately need. If you would like more information, please feel free to email us at wevegottimetohelp@q.com

As soon as we have our initial funding, we will start the expansion. We are working closely with a couple of people that know the ins and outs of fundraising and we have already received a couple of large contributions. 

For everyone that has contacted us about starting a chapter in their city; please hang in there. Stay with us. Don’t lose that excitement and hope! We will not back down until there is a WGTTH chapter in every community that needs one. 

For those of you that have contacted us for help, all over the US, rest assured; we are coming. But it’s not just Michelle and Seth this time. Nope, this time we are bringing an army. Don’t think for a minute that we have forgotten about you. We haven’t forgotten and we will not let you sink. 

Over the next month, we hope to start this expansion. When it starts, it will move quickly and with organization. We will give those of you that are starting chapters all of the help you will need. We will answer any and all of your questions and lend you any assistance you need. 

If you are interested in starting a WGTTH in your community, we would love to hear from you! Please email us at wevegottimetohelp@q.com and let us know what city and state you are in. As soon as we have the resources, again hopefully in the coming month, we will contact you will all of the details. 

If you are interested in holding a fundraiser for We’ve Got Time to Help, again, we would love to hear from you! We are hoping to hold some small, intimate fundraisers in people’s homes, especially here in Portland, OR. Again, these donations would be completely tax-deductable. 

Thank you and we can’t tell you how much we are looking forward to working with each and every one of you! We have hundreds of emails and calls to get to, but we will get back to every person that has contacted us. 

Seth and Michelle

Thanks to everyone!

Friday, February 5th, 2010

On Friday morning, a group of us met at a project site to spread some gravel for a neighbor in need. The side of their home gets to be a muddy and dangerous slope when it rains. One of our volunteers, Meri, suggested that we lay down some gravel to combat the problem. We put the call out for help and you answered!

It took us 2 pickup loads full of gravel but we finished the project in just a couple of hours. We finished so quickly because of the hard work put in by so many volunteers.

A big and heartfelt “Thank you” to Meri, Julie, Mel, Louanne, Inman, David, Daniel and Seth.

Another successful group project completed!

A little story…

Sunday, October 18th, 2009

This story is not about Michelle and I (Seth). It is not meant to be a self-congratulatory anecdote. It is meant to illustrate how easy it is to not help someone in need. How easy it is to ignore those around us.

Last night, Michelle and I ran up to Safeway to get some items for dinner. We were both hungry and tired from the day and we were being pretty grumpy. The store was very busy and noisy, which didn’t help our mood at all. After waiting in line for what seemed like 20 minutes, we finally checked out and left through the big double doors.

As we exited the building, our arms were overloaded with bags of groceries and 3 cases of soda. We hadn’t grabbed a cart when we went in, so we just decided to lug the groceries out to the car. On our way out, we were approached by 2 disheveled looking women. The younger (teenager) of the two women asked us if we had a quarter. Michelle and I both said “no, sorry. We don’t have any change”. We then proceeded to the car.

As we approached the car, Michelle asked me if I heard what the young woman said after we walked away. I said no, I hadn’t. Apparently, when we said “no” and walked away, the young girl had said “Oh no, mom. What do we do now”? We both felt a large pang of guilt. At the car, Michelle dug through her purse to get some change. We turned around in time to see 2 men, giving them some change. We looked at each other, wondering what to do next, and slowly climbed into the car. As we drove towards home, Michelle started to cry. I asked her what was wrong, and she stated that we were very callous to just say no and walk away from the women. After talking about it for another minute or so, we turned the car around and headed back to see if we could help in any way.

We pulled up to the store again and found the women at a telephone booth, trying to place a call. We slowly walked up to them and said “excuse me”. They turned around, we noticed that they weren’t disheveled at all. In fact, it was just an awkward teenager and her mom. They looked completely “normal”. In our grumpy mood and our haste to get home, we had seen something that wasn’t really there at all. We saw what we expected to see from a couple of people begging money outside a store. I believe it was Henry David Thoreau who said, “We must learn to reawaken and keep ourselves awake…” No words have ever been more true.

As we approached, they turned to greet us. Michelle held out a handful of change to the mom. She graciously took the gift and said, very genuinely, “thank you”! We then asked her if there was anything that we could do to help them. She said “we were just evicted a couple of days ago, and we are trying to call someone who can wire us some money”. Michelle and I both started crying. We told her how sorry we were for walking by. How sorry we were that we didn’t stop and offer help before. We gave them our phone number and told then to call for any reason. We told her that we had some extra food they could have, a computer and phone that they could use, or just a place to rest if they needed it. We told them again how very sorry we were and how sorry we were that they were in such an awful situation.

As we drove back home, still crying, Michelle reminded me that we had an extra Rose City Resource Guide (www.rosecityresource.org) at home. It’s a great little booklet of community and city resources for those in need. They work in conjunction with 211.org. As soon as we got home, I rushed in and grabbed one of the booklets. We then went back to the store and gave them the guide. Once again, they thanked us and gave us very warm and bright smiles.

This young family will probably never call. We will probably never see them again. Hopefully, they got some money together and are on their way to a safe place. The point is not that we helped them, it’s that they helped us. This young mother and daughter have changed our lives. It opened our eyes. Eyes that had begun to close without either of us noticing. As Michelle so eloquently stated “Everyone (meaning us) needs a good kick in the teeth sometimes”. I couldn’t agree more.

As we returned home, we cried in silence. We were thinking about how cold and callous we were during our first encounter with these lost souls. About how we were not practicing what we preach. We tell everyone we know to stop and help those in need. We tell people to stop making excuses and to just lend a hand. And yet here we were, willing to walk right by someone that had asked us for a measly quarter.

Asked for a little help.

Asked for a little hope.

1,000,000 kind acts

Tuesday, April 28th, 2009

1 Million Kind Acts – Let’s change the world!

There are all sorts of kind acts that we can do for each other. Our newest project is to complete 1,000,000 kind acts throughout the remainder of the year. Please email your stories (and photos, if you have them) of nice things being done for those who need it. We can all make this world a better place if we just give a little of ourselves. Each and every one of us has the opportunity to make someone’s life better. Let’s take that opportunity and make the most of it.

For instance, you can:

1. Help a neighbor carry in their groceries from the car
2. Lend a neighbor a hand with a project (such as fencing or roofing)
3. Smile at a stranger
4. Stop to see if someone needs help if they are broken down by the side of the road
5. Bring you neighbor (whom you know or don’t know) a pie or cake
6. Mow your neighbor’s lawn
7. Help your neighbor push their car out of the snow
8. Let someone stay with you while they get their finances in order
9. Help someone with their homework
10. Compliment someone on their dress or suit
11. Make, and hand out, some sandwiches (peanut butter or baloney) to homeless people in your area
12. Offer your professional services for free to someone who needs it
13. Pay for the groceries for the person in front of you
14. Pay for the coffee for the person in line behind you
15. Free your neighborhood of garbage by doing a (group?) trash pick up
16. Combine you and your neighbor’s resources and do something for another neighbor in need
17. Greet every new neighbor that moves onto your block with a smile and a handshake
18. Volunteer your time to help anyone in need
19. Understand that we are all human and we all make mistakes
20. Let a car cut in front of you without getting upset

These are just 20 of the examples we thought of. Please email us at wevegottimetohelp@q.com and tell us your stories. We will post every story on our website so that we can give new ideas to people and, maybe, just maybe, make this world a better place. We would love 1 million stories by the end of the year. Do you think it can be done? Please let us know what you are doing or have done, for your neighbors, friends and family. Take care.